Thursday, June 26, 2008

You wanna get married?

Just had lunch with one of my trainee.

We were just shooting the breeze when the topic of marriage came up.

He wants to marry his gal.

Just a bit of background on my trainee. He is in his mid 20s and his galfriend is in her early 20s.

My trainee is working as an agent in a call center while his gal is still studying.

Financially they are not stable, but what got me thinking is that the dude is still playing the field.

Out of curiosity, I ask him why does he want to get married.

He said they have been dating for 6 years.

I told him that’s not a good reason.

He feels obligated to marry her because she helped him when times were bad.

Obligated? That’s a horrendous reason to get married.

The galfriend will “mengungkit” if he doesn’t marry her!

WoW! Now that’s a good reason….. hahahahaha

Its nice of him to do what he thinks is right…. but marriage is not for a day or two. Its suppose to be forever.

Love is the predominant factor for two people wanting to be together forever.

Without love….. the chances are high that the marriage wont work.

Unfortunately, love is not enough to make a marriage work.

There is respect, understanding, tolerance and whole lots more.

Its one thing to say that you miss your partner when apart, but its totally different when you have to be with that person 24/7.

Love can turn to hate when there is no other factors involved.

You think about that person all the time. You have strong feelings for that person. You dream about that person. There is a lot of things you wanna say and do to that person.

Did I describe love? Or hate?

It can be either one.

Hate is just a flipside away from love.

So….. please have a good reason to get married.

No need to think a million times or think things over a week.

Just have a good reason… then you can get married.